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Rachel Burger's avatar

I can relate to this so deeply. The under the surface stress and worrying about it bubbling up. I worry about not being the best parent I could because all of that stress. I feel angry we canโ€™t just enjoy parenting more ya know? Thanks for sharing this ๐Ÿ’•

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Danielle Coffyn's avatar

Yes, I feel like itโ€™s been so hard to enjoy it the last few months. I intentionally try to put away my phone and to focus on our time together. There are moments I succeed, but that anxiety is there bubbling below the surface and those moments it comes out are always upsetting.

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Rachel Burger's avatar

Yes, exactly. I keep reminding myself: hey, they can learn from my owning up to it. Thatโ€™s something haha and then we try again ๐Ÿฉต

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Danielle Coffyn's avatar

Absolutely! Adults who apologize and work to make amends teach our children how to do the same ๐Ÿ’›

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The Sea in Me    (Sรญodhna)'s avatar

Well done you on getting the poetry circles going, time isn't good for GMT, otherwise I'd consider it. Onwards Danielle, look at all you've done, REALLY!

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Danielle Coffyn's avatar

Thank you so much ๐Ÿ’›

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Wendy Wolf's avatar

For me, it's an undercurrent to everything. This abstract anxiety. I can't fully relax. But I still have happy moments. And I'm thankful. Love to you, Danielle.

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Danielle Coffyn's avatar

Same Wendy, I still have joyful moments and I am grateful for each and every one of them.

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Julie Campbell's avatar

It feels like everything good is being cut - education, science, health and human services, the old growth forests. The dystopian novels are coming true. A friend and I talking today - we are hurting for the younger ones. We are older. We have lived our lives. We go to the rallies with the other people born in the 1950s, wearing tie-dyed shirts and carrying signs for hope.

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Danielle Coffyn's avatar

It does feel like everything good is being cut. I hear about the cuts to environmental protection and want to sob. I imagine it must be hard for elder generations to look at the progress you all worked for so tirelessly be eliminated within weeks. We keep protesting and resisting but my goodness itโ€™s disheartening to bear witness to.

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LeeAnn Pickrell's avatar

I so relate. The tension and stress is right there, just below the surface. Is CST, Central time in the US?

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Danielle Coffyn's avatar

Yes! Itโ€™s central standard time in the US

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Almut | The Weary Pilgrim's avatar

Danielle, what a beautiful post. I just snapped right on Easter Sunday coming from church! I so appreciate your fine way of describing the experience. And to look behind the anger to find the grief. So true. I wish I could hike with you through Scotland. May be next year ๐Ÿ™

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Danielle Coffyn's avatar

Yes, we keep peeling back the layers to find the source of what leads to our anger and rage. It is uncomfortable but necessary. And I would love to see you on a future retreat!

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Rebecca Cook's avatar

Danielle, Thank you so much for this lovely offering. I just happen to have all those Wednesdays open. I need to do this, truly. Looking forward to it.

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Danielle Coffyn's avatar

Rebecca I'm delighted to hear the dates work for you and you'll be available to join. Can't wait to hear what you write :)

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Andrรฉs's avatar

The most important people in my life are those with whom I can jump straight into conversations about the seriousness of life and then jump into a conversation about eggs. I mean, small talk with strangers is rewarding too but the comfort lives in the vulnerable conversations you can have with people you love and who love you back. Thanks for reminding me of this.

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